Happily Divorced And After

National Save Our Sons Night | 2-6-15

ATLANTA, GA- On Friday, February 6, 2015, the first annual NATIONALSAVE OUR SONS NIGHT (NSOSN) will take place across the country.  On this evening, various partners from faith-based, national and local nonprofits, and individual community members are hosting events to encourage and facilitate fathers spending more quality time with their sons. Currently there are 111 organizations in 62 cities registered to participate in support of the effort and facilitating activities to engage fathers/men and sons/boys.

“I am both humbled and excited that so many organizations from around the country have stepped up to the plate,” says Kenneth Braswell, Executive Director of Fathers Incorporated and founder of the campaign. “It is important that we set a new social image of black men and boys; one that shows them as loving, engaged and accountable.”

The campaign is supported by both Chris Broussard (ESPN Commentor) and Fred Hammond (Award Winning Gospel Artist) serving as national spokespersons. “So much of our work has been supported by both of these men of integrity. Their understanding of the need of America’s fathers and sons and those in the Black community more specifically has been demonstrated in how Fathers Incorporated has witnessed their own engagement in the lives of their children and community.”

Fathers Incorporated (FI), a not-for-profit organization, serves as a leader in the promotion of Responsible Fatherhood and Mentoring.  Its international, national, and local focus raises awareness about, and combats the impact of father absence. Fathers Incorporated works to change the current societal and cultural definition of family to include fathers.

For more information on National Save Ours Sons Night and to see a complete listing of both our partners and events, visit www.saveoursonsnight.com To learn more about Fathers Incorporated, please visit www.fathersincorporated.com .

(right) Ava DuVernay, diraector and writer of Selm

Credit: Earl Gibson III for NAACP

Last night, Thursday, February 5, 2015, The 46^th NAACP Image Awards announced the winners for the 45 non-televised categories at gala dinner at the Pasadena Civic Auditorium hosted by Affion Crockett and Chris Spencer.

Winners were voted upon by NAACP members and announced when the envelopes were opened on Thursday, February 5 (45 categories). The remaining 10 categories will be announced LIVE on stage during the two-hour star-studded TV One telecast on Friday, February 6 at 9:00pm ET (PT tape-delayed) hosted by Anthony Anderson. The LIVE red carpet show will air on TV One at 8:00pm ET (PT tape-delayed).

For all information and latest news, and complete list of winners, please visit the official NAACP Image Awards website at http://www.naacpimageawards.net.

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The Winners From Last Night Are As Follows –

LITERATURE:

Outstanding Literary Work – Fiction

“A Wanted Woman” – Eric Jerome Dickey (Penguin Random House)

Outstanding Literary Work – Non-Fiction

“Just Mercy: A Story of Justice and Redemption” – Bryan Stevenson (Spiegel & Grau)

Outstanding Literary Work – Debut Author

“Forty Acres” – Dwayne Alexander Smith (Atria Books)

Outstanding Literary Work – Biography/Autobiography

“Breaking Ground:  My Life in Medicine” – Louis Sullivan with David Chanoff (University of Georgia Press)

Outstanding Literary Work – Instructional

“Promises Kept: Raising Black Boys to Succeed in School and in Life” – Joe Brewster, Michele Stephenson, Hilary Beard (Spiegel & Grau)

Outstanding Literary Work – Poetry

“Citizen: An American Lyric” – Claudia Rankine (Graywolf Press)

Outstanding Literary Work – Children

“Dork Diaries 8: Tales From A Not-So Happily Ever After” – Rachel Renee Russell with Nikki Russell and Erin Russell (Simon & Schuster)

Outstanding Literary Work – Youth/Teens

“Brown Girl Dreaming” – Jacqueline Woodson (Nancy Paulsen Books)

RECORDING:

Outstanding New Artist

3 Winans Brothers (BMG)

Outstanding Male Artist

Pharrell Williams (Columbia Records)

Outstanding Female Artist

Beyoncé (Columbia Records)

Outstanding Duo, Group or Collaboration

“Stay With Me” – Sam Smith feat. Mary J Blige (Capitol)

Outstanding Jazz Album

“My Old Friend: Celebrating George Duke” – Al Jarreau (Concord)

Outstanding Gospel Album (Traditional or Contemporary)

“Where My Heart Belongs” – Gladys Knight (Shadow Mountain Records)

Outstanding Music Video

“You and I (Nobody in the World)” – John Legend (Columbia Records)

Outstanding Song

“We Are Here” – Alicia Keys (RCA Records)

Outstanding Album

“Aretha Franklin Sings the Great Diva Classics” – Aretha Franklin (RCA Records)

ANIMATED OR COMPUTER GENERATED IMAGE (CGI):

Outstanding Character Voice-Over Performance

Loretta Devine – “Doc McStuffins” (Disney Junior)

TELEVISION:

Outstanding Writing in a Comedy Series

Sara Hess – “Orange is the New Black” – It Was the Change (Netflix)

Outstanding Writing in a Drama Series

Erika Green Swafford – “How to Get Away With Murder” – Let’s Get To Scooping (ABC)

Outstanding Writing in a Television Movie

Shernold Edwards – “A Day Late and a Dollar Short” (Lifetime Networks)

Outstanding Directing in a Comedy Series

Ken Whittingham – “Parks and Recreation” – Prom (NBC)

Outstanding Directing in a Drama Series  

Carl Franklin – “House of Cards” – Chapter 14 (Netflix)

Outstanding Directing in a Television Movie

Reggie Bythewood – “Gun Hill” (BET)

Outstanding Supporting Actor in a Comedy Series

Laurence Fishburne – “black-ish” (ABC)

Outstanding Supporting Actress in a Comedy Series

Yara Shahidi – “black-ish” (ABC)

Outstanding Supporting Actor in a Drama Series

Joe Morton – “Scandal” (ABC)

Outstanding Supporting Actress in a Drama Series

Khandi Alexander – “Scandal” (ABC)

Outstanding Television Movie, Mini- Series, or Dramatic Special

“The Trip to Bountiful” (Lifetime Networks)

Outstanding Actor in a Television Movie, Mini- Series, or Dramatic Special

Blair Underwood- “The Trip to Bountiful” (Lifetime Networks)

Outstanding Actress in a Television Movie, Mini- Series, or Dramatic Special

Cicely Tyson- “The Trip to Bountiful” (Lifetime Networks)

Outstanding News/Information (Series or Special)

“Unsung” (TV One)

Outstanding Talk Series

“Steve Harvey” (Syndicated)

Outstanding Reality Series

“Iyanla: Fix My Life” (OWN)

Outstanding Variety (Series or Special)

“Oprah’s Master Class” (OWN)

Outstanding Children’s Program

“Doc McStuffins” (Disney Junior)

Outstanding Performance by a Youth in a Youth/ Children’s Program (Series or Special)

Fatima Ptacek- “Dora and Friends: Into the City!” (Nickelodeon)

Outstanding Host in a Talk, Reality, News/Information, or Variety Series

Steve Harvey- “Steve Harvey” (Syndicated)

DOCUMENTARY:

Outstanding Documentary – (Film)

“Through A Lens Darkly: Black Photographers and the Emergence of a People” (Chimpanzee Productions, Inc.)

Outstanding Documentary – (Television)

“Bad Boys” (ESPN)

MOTION PICTURE:

Outstanding Writing in a Motion Picture

Misan Sagay – “Belle” (Fox Searchlight Pictures/DJ Films)

Outstanding Directing in a Motion Picture

Antoine Fuqua – “The Equalizer” (Columbia Pictures)

Outstanding Supporting Actor in a Motion Picture

Common- “Selma” (Paramount Pictures)

Outstanding Supporting Actress in a Motion Picture

Carmen Ejogo – “Selma” (Paramount Pictures)

Outstanding Independent Motion Picture

“Belle” (Fox Searchlight Pictures/DJ Films)

Finding true love may be as easy as a visit to the local animal shelter. San Bernardino County Animal Care and Control (ACC) will host a seven day Furever Yours Pet Adoption Event at its shelters in Devore and Big Bear, Feb. 8-14, 2015. The Animals aRe First Fund (ARFF), a local non-profit charitable organization that assists animals in County of San Bernardino Animal Shelters, will be paying for the vaccination, spay/neuter fees.

The adoption fees for the week will be $25 for dogs and $17 for cats and includes a microchip for each pet. The fee does not include the cost of a dog license and there is a limit of two adoptions per family.

“This is a wonderful opportunity to match pets that need homes with those looking for a furever friend,” said Brian Cronin, Chief of San Bernardino County Animal Care and Control.  “If you are ready to add a lifetime of love and happiness to your family, then come and see all the wonderful companion animals that are available for adoption. They come in all sizes and shapes, colors and breeds.”

The Devore Animal Shelter, located at 19777 Shelter Way, San Bernardino. The shelter will be open from 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. on Saturday and Sunday. For more information, call San Bernardino County Animal Care and Control at 1-800-472-5609 or visit their website at www.sbcounty.gov/acc to see photographs of the animals awaiting adoption.

Animal Care and Control is doing its part to help the community achieve the Countywide Vision by ensuring residents have the resources they need to provide the necessities of life to their families. Information on the Countywide Vision can be found at www.sbcounty.gov.

Lou Coleman

By Lou Coleman

Really … You sound just like the people in the Book of Haggai. Selfish; self-centered.  They were only thinking about themselves, building their own houses and planting their crops, and not taking time to build the house of the Lord. Well I want you to know that they found trouble (Haggai 1:6). The Lord was making it known why they were in the condition they were in: sowing much, and bringing little in; eating, but not having enough; drinking, but not filled; clothed, but not warm, having a paycheck but no money! Their need was not being met… “Utterly meaningless, says the Teacher” {Ecclesiastes 1:2}.  Perhaps I should remind you of what Proverbs 14:12 says, “There is a way that seemeth right to a man, but in the end thereof it leads to death.” Don’t be a fool! Remember the parable of the rich man. He said I’ll build me a barn to house all of my things. This man didn’t take time to consider his ways and make sure his soul was right with God. When he got his bigger barns finished, the Lord said, this night your soul is required of you… Are you sure you want to do your own thang? I wouldn’t want to be one who is carried away wanting to do my own thing and not putting God first. It can only mean disaster. You know many of the “things” written in the Bible are examples, both positive and negative, from which we are able to learn how we are or are not to behave and think before God. A lot of those examples are of selfish people who illustrate the characteristics and consequences having an improper attitude toward self. Cain {Genesis 4.)  Ahab (1King 21}… David {2 Samuel 11} …James and John {Matt 20}… the Older Brother of the Prodigal {Luke 15}…just to name a few.

Listen, Haggai message was simple. It was a message of priority: Put first things first. His message was blunt. He pulled no punches and wasted no words. Haggai said stop making excuses, cease being selfish! God sought to warn the people to heed His words. Twice Haggai instructed the people, ‘consider your ways (1:5, 7). Which they did not. Therefore they were rebuked of the Lord because they were selfish and self-centered; letting the house of God lie waste, while every man ran to his own house. They had pushed God out of the center and because of that they suffered in every area. I tell you we too will get a rebuke from the Lord when we don’t do things God’s way. We really should take time to consider our ways. I don’t know about you, but I don’t want God to call for a drought for me as he did for the Jews. He called for a drought upon the land, the mountains, the corn, the new wine, the oil, and upon that which the ground would bring forth. Upon men, upon cattle, and upon all the labor of the hands. The Lord did that. Why? Because of a stiff-necked, selfish, self-centered people. He caused the heaven to be stayed from dew and the earth to be stayed from her fruit (verse 10). All because they wanted to do things their way and not God’s way. God is letting us know just what can happen to us if we refuse to do things His way. He knows how to get our attention. He knows how to deal with us that we might know we’re not doing it the way He wants us to do it. With this strong indictment and devastating predicament, the people realized they had caused their own calamites. The people were ready to evaluate their situation. Yes, we must put aside the things we desire, put aside our self-centered ways, and put the work of the Lord first. The psalmist declared: “I thought about my ways, and turned my feet to your testimonies” (Ps 119:59). Here in Haggai God shows us what happened to His people, and He lets us know why it happened. They didn’t see the need to build the house of God. I tell you we should be building up the house of God, working together to further the kingdom of God. Going out to minister to souls and bringing them into the church, where they can hear the Word of the Lord being preached and get saved, if they haven’t already given their hearts to the Lord.

Out of God’s love and mercy, He sends His prophets and preaches to remind us of His faithfulness – and in turn, to remind us as His people to be faithful and obedient as well. He has given us His Word to sound the alarm. Not only did God warn them, but He also offered promises through His servant Haggai to motivate them to follow Him. Don’t you know that if your priorities are not in order, your life will not be in order? If your priorities are not right, you won’t be right. Listen, you don’t have to pray about what your number one priority in life ought to be. You don’t have to think about it. You don’t have to discuss it. You don’t have to look for it. You just have to do it. Because Jesus has already told us what our first priority ought to be, “seek ye first the kingdom of God.”  Jesus wants the first moments of everyday. Jesus wants the first day of every week. Jesus wants the first part of every paycheck. He wants to be first… Put “Self” to Death {Galatians 2:20}. I tell you, the kingdom of God ought to be the obsession of your life. We are not free to do as we please. We belong to God {Ezekiel 18:4}. Our lives belong to the Lord {Romans 14:7-8} and we live for the will of God {1Peter 4:1-2}. For the whole duty of man is to serve God {Ecclesiastes 12:13}. It’s not about you, but God… Stop being selfish and accept God’s prerogative as a great comfort to your soul. Cease striving, let go, relax and know that He is God. He will be exalted among the nations. He will be exalted in the earth, and He will be exalted in your life. Look to him and be saved. It’s Not Your Prerogative…. It’s God’s Prerogative!

Troy D. Taylor

It’s a beautiful day in the I.E., and I’m glad about it! It’s ya’ girl the crazy one, Miss LUE coming at you with ‘What it Do’! Sometimes it’s hard to select whom to feature in my column due to all the talent everywhere. This week’s selection was a no brainer. I would like to introduce a hardworking man that goes by the name of Troy D. Taylor.

Troy D. Taylor is a rational and impartial individual who enjoys intellectual pursuits and prizes independence is undoubtedly designed to be an entrepreneur. Troy D. Taylor, aka DjCahoots, is a California native that is a self-taught drummer. He has spent the last ten years producing music. After successfully going through and completing an accelerated academic program, Troy proudly served his country and emerged as a leader. His all-inclusive media arts and entertainment company, Rigorous Grind, is the invention of his analytic mind.

Rigorous Grind strategically responds to all of the industry needs through comprehensive service offerings. Troy Taylor’s life experiences has made him incredibly comfortable with hard work and high standards; he is a confident and knowledgeable pioneer in a demanding and competitive market. Please check him out on Facebook under Troy D. Taylor and the awesome services he provides.

Well that’s it that’s all! Until next week ONE LOVE!

Publishers Commentary by Wallace J. Allen

Freedom does not negate physics. Newton’s law of motion says, “For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction…”

I am free to say what I want and you are free to respond! I am free to vaccinate and you are free to not vaccinate. I am free to hope that my vaccination shields me from measles etc… You are free to ’dodge’ or catch the measles, etc. You are free to ’dodge’ or catch the measles.

As to the child that is too young to vaccinate and is vulnerable and dependent on others being vaccinated, the parent/guardian must take charge. Since that parent/guardian cannot take charge of who is and who is not vaccinated, they must take charge of their child. If your child’s immune system is vulnerable should you trust the probability of others being vaccinated any more than you would trust a daycare service operated by the ”Redeemed Child Molester’s Association?”

Our society does not require people to make smart decisions. We are allowed the freedom to decide for ourselves with good or bad decisions. That same freedom requires us to deal with the repercussions, as well as the rewards of our decisions.

Freedom can be confusing and frustrating, and definitely requires responsibility. When confronted with the “Jim Crow” laws of the post civil war era, an era that obviously paid no heed to political correctness, a formerly enslaved man was overheard to say “Freedom can be a ‘B-word’!”

(from left to right) Lashyra Nolen, Thomas Watkins, and Lorissa Payne

LOS ANGELES, CA- What does it take to be a leader? Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. was a great orator, Muhammad Ali was a fighter in and out of the ring, and aviator Bessie Coleman was as determined as they come. One thing they had in common was their affinity for leadership which was apparent at an early age.  Today, three stellar scholars from Ronald McDonald House Charities®/African American Future Achievers (RMHC/AAFA) scholarship program are emerging as young leaders in their communities and on their college campuses as well. The scholarship program is hosted locally by Ronald McDonald House Charities® of Southern California (RMHCSC) and supported by the fundraising efforts of local McDonald’s owner/operators and corporate staff.  Each of these students have drawn inspiration from leaders of the past, while they start to build their own ideas of what it takes to become a leader today.

Lashyra Nolen

LaShyra Nolen, a sophomore Health and Human Science major at Loyola Marymont University (LMU), believes being a leader means being bold and being prepared to act so the voices you serve are heard. She plans to do just that as a Clinton Global Initiative Student innovator, a program that provides support for undergraduate students who are developing new solutions to the world’s most pressing issues. Her plan is to create a five-week health program in the Riverside and San Bernardino communities that help families set healthy trends.

Nolen says the RMHC/AAFA program gave her confidence. “The fact that such an organization saw me fit to represent them showed me that I have people who believe in me,” says Nolen. “I asked myself, why can’t I be successful and do well in college too?” Doing “well” is an understatement for Nolen who serves her campus as a student senator, resident hall advisor, and member of LMU’s Belles Service Organization.

The aspiring doctor, who is from Rancho Cucamonga, says her drive and passion for her community was inspired by her mother. She received two college degrees while taking care of Nolen and her little brother as a single mother. “Everything I am doing all goes back to giving back and using my strength to help others.”

Thomas Watkins

Thomas Watkins was selected as a RMHC/AAFA recipient in 2013 and has since partnered with RMHCSC to talk with students about reaching their goals and the importance of pursuing college. A Corona native majoring in Hotel and Restaurant Management at California Polytechnic State University in Pomona, Watkins believes a leader has to know how to command attention through communication. “A leader could be anyone, from any walk of life,” says Watkins. “They could talk to the CEO of a company, and also connect with a kindergartener with no problem.”

As an aspiring restauranteur, Watkins hopes to continue connecting with his community. He believes food is the one thing that can put a smile on anyone’s face. “I want to help my community by creating programs that teach kids how to cook as an outlet for them,” he says.

Lorissa Payne

Biola University student, Lorissa Payne, began thinking of ways she could become a leader in high school. The freshman English major noticed she had the gift of writing and challenged herself by taking advanced placement classes which led her to be selected to the Torrey Honors Institute at Biola. The institute spurs students to take a deeper dive into Western literature and aims to build strong, Christian leaders.

“Writing is a primary form of communication and if students can’t express themselves through writing, it is a detriment to one’s future,” says Payne. She aspires to work in education and believes leadership is all about leading by example. “When others see a living example of a leader, it allows them to think they can succeed too,” she says.  She calls former United States Secretary of State Condeleeza Rice her living example. “Reading her biography in high school made me realize we were raised similarly, says Payne. “Her story showed me when people utilize their gifts to help others; they can go much further in life.”

Nolen, Watkins, and Payne are just a few of the 109 students identified each year through the RMHCSC scholarship program. Since 1990, RMHCSC has awarded more than $4.5 million in scholarship funds to local students. It allows students the opportunity to think about their future, makes college attainable and helps students inspire others.  Scholarships are awarded through four programs, including: RMHC /AAFA, RMHC/Asian Pacific American Students Increasing Achievement (ASIA), RMHC/Hispanic American Commitment to Educational Resources (HACER) and RMHC/Scholars.

For more than 35 years, RMHCSC has been committed to providing comfort, care and support to children and families in Southern California.  RMHCSC is dedicated to creating a community where children and their families embrace life and healing with a sense of hope, enthusiasm, courage and joy by operating six Ronald McDonald Houses, Camp Ronald McDonald for Good Times, two Ronald McDonald Family Rooms and a Community Grants Board. This year, another 109 student scholars and future leaders from across Southern California will be celebrated during the annual RMHCSC scholarship luncheon that will take place in May.

Community members signing up for affordable health care (Photo by Naomi K. Bonman).

SAN BERNARDINO, CA- In an effort to get citizens enrolled in a healthcare plan by the February 15, 2015 deadline, the San Bernardino Boys and Girls Club opened up their doors on Monday, February 2 to host an open enrollment workshop with Covered California. The workshop was held from 4 p.m. to 8 p.m. and guests were able to learn about their healthcare options through a presentation which answered any concerns or questions that they had.

“We are happy to host Covered California, and to provide such a wonderful opportunity to individuals and families in the local community.” Dr. Lolita Lyles, Director of the Operations at the Boys and Girls Club of San Bernardino, stated. “It is essential that members of the economically challenged communities, like San Bernardino, have greater access to affordable health coverage. Our organization promotes healthy lifestyles, and we are happy to take the lead in assisting to improve access to quality coverage, and to improving overall health outcomes in our community.”

Quiana Lewis

(Quiana Lewis joined the Robert Wood Johnson Foundation in 2014 as a program associate, working to build a Culture of Health by helping all American residents attain stable, affordable health coverage.)

By Quiana Lewis

I am one of the more than 22,000 alumni whose careers have been shaped and lives changed by the Robert Wood Johnson Foundation’s Summer Medical and Dental Education Program (SMDEP).

For me, medicine was a logical decision: my academic performance in science was good, I liked interacting with people, and I didn’t want to be a lawyer.

Clearly, my perceptions of medicine and careers in health were limited.

Then came my SMDEP summer at UCLA, one of the most transformative experiences of my college education. A pipeline program for students who typically are underrepresented in health care fields, SMDEP exposed me to the study and practice of medicine and dentistry that enriched my understanding for both fields. I shadowed physicians, received enrichment in core science subjects, and learned how to excel in medical and dental school. I also received hands-on laboratory experience to create dental models and conducted health screenings at community fairs.

The unexpected lessons from the program, however, were the ones that stuck with me most.

The core science classes were structured using case-based learning methods. This was a departure from the didactic way I was used to learning science. The curriculum used patient case studies to teach biology, anatomy, and physiology. The lessons were investigative in nature and discussion-based. We discussed not only patients’ medical issues, but also the socioeconomic factors affecting them. This piqued my interest. Until then, I had not thought deeply about the impact of systems on the health of individuals. Throughout that summer, I read books and journal articles about the social determinants of health, medical anthropology, and epidemiology. The more I read, the more questions I posed, and the more I realized this was the career path for me.

After SMDEP, I continued to explore the vast world of public health at school and in subsequent summer programs. I graduated from Fisk University, and went on to obtain a master’s degree in public health from Yale University. Since graduate school, I have worked in state and local health departments, community organizations, and health consulting firms.

My public health journey has come full circle. I discovered my passion for population health with the help of RWJF, by way of SMDEP. Now, as an RWJF employee, I work with the Foundation to build a Culture of Health across the nation.

Without SMDEP, I might never have discovered my passion.

SMDEP is currently recruiting for its 2015 summer program through March 1, at 12 sites across the country, including Case Western Reserve University, Columbia University, Duke University, Howard University, Rutgers University, University of Texas, UCLA, University of Louisville, University of Nebraska, University of Virginia, University of Washington, and Yale University.

For more information, visit http://smdep.org/apply-to-smdep/

Los Angeles-based online jewelry company nu day jewelry co. is hosting their 1st Annual True Love Valentine’s Day Contest this year that exclusively benefits military couples! Couples can enter to win a piece of jewelry (of their choice) for their loved one worth up to $500!!!